It’s sad but true: sometimes even a long-term relationship comes to an end. The key is figuring out how to know when to break up.
If there’s one thing we all have in common, it’s that we’ve all been through a breakup. Whether you were the one to do the breaking or you got your heart smashed into a thousand pieces, you know that breakups can be hard for both parties.
But if it’s been a while since you went through a breakup — or the last big one was major, like the end of a marriage or long-term relationship — you might not know when to break up, when to throw in the towel.
How to Know When to Break Up: 20 Warning Signs
Every relationship is, of course, different, and what every person is willing to deal with in a relationship varies. Also, your past experiences may dictate what you’re willing to suffer through now.
If you were married to an emotionally abusive man, you might think your boyfriend, who simply doesn’t care about you as much as you care about him, is so much better that you’re willing to accept the fact that it’s a lopsided relationship.
I want to say this: while yes, the man you’re with will have some things that completely get on your nerves, you shouldn’t settle. I need you to know that if you aren’t happy- at least the majority of the time- you’re in the wrong relationship. There is someone out there that you can be authentic and blissfully happy with…but you’ll have to break up with this Mr. Wrong to find him.
Here are some of the signs that it’s time to break up.
Look, you might think breakups are painful, but nothing is as painful as staying in an unhappy relationship.
You know what I’m talking about. Maybe you had a relationship in the past (maybe even a marriage) that you felt like you couldn’t get out of for far too long…but then when you finally ended it, you wondered why you didn’t end things sooner.
Or maybe you’re currently in a relationship where you feel like you’re settling and you wish you were brave enough to just walk away.
Whatever your situation with the unhappy relationship, I’m going to walk you through a three-step process for figuring out what to do to stop being miserable and start living life from a happier place.
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I’ve been in a few unhappy relationships in my life, and the one common thread I can see among all of these when I look back on them is that I was so blinded by the idea of what I wanted the relationship to be that I couldn’t see it for what it really was.
It can be super frustrating to invest months — or even years — into a relationship only to realize one day that it’s not what you want it to be.
Maybe you’re ignoring suspicious behavior that you think might indicate that he’s cheating and you don’t want to deal with that reality…
…or you aren’t really physically attracted to him anymore…